Month: November 2008

Young children: When is it time to talk about cancer?

You need to tell your children that you have cancer, but you’ve been waiting for the right time. There’s never a “perfect” time, though, to give this kind of news to young children. When to talk When talking with children who are less than six years old, pick a time when they can pay attention… Read more »

Young children: Should they be involved with my care?

Young children like to help their parents. When it comes to caring for you at home, though, how much should children under the age of 6 be expected to help? The answer depends on the ages of your children, and your relationship with them. Keep in mind that young children have short attention spans. Any… Read more »

Young children: Should I share my fears?

It’s important to be honest with young children – especially ones who are younger than six – because they can be good at figuring out how a parent feels. But it’s also important to show your feelings in a way that gives them the least amount of worry. Keep in mind: Young children can be… Read more »

Young children: How to talk about pain

Children can be very sensitive to how a parent is feeling. It may be hard to keep even young children (less than six years old) from noticing that you’re in pain. For this reason, it’s important to be honest with them. Figure out how to share what you’re going through in a way that causes… Read more »

Teenagers: When is it time to talk about cancer?

Even if you feel pressured to find the perfect time to talk about your cancer, there is no perfect time to break the news to your teenagers. Finding a good time Tell your children only when YOU feel ready to talk about your cancer. Don’t let too much time go by before talking with your… Read more »

Teenagers: What to say about cancer

What’s the best way to tell your teenager that you have cancer? What words should you use? How will your teen react? All families are different, and no one can write the perfect script for you and your children – but what you say will depend on: How your children are usually told about important… Read more »

Teenagers: Should I share my fears?

It’s important to be honest with teenagers about your fears and worries. That’s because teenagers are smart: Even if you don’t tell them what you’re worried about, at some point they’ll figure it out. The following guidelines can help as you share some of your fears: Talk about your fears in a way that causes… Read more »

Teenagers: How much to say about cancer?

Now that you’ve decided to talk with your teen honestly about your cancer, you may be worried about how much information to give them. Teens can tell you openly how much detail they want to know: Ask them before you start talking. Teenagers have plenty of access to the Internet and to other sources of… Read more »

School-age children: When is it time to talk about cancer?

Your children need to be told that you have cancer, but you’ve been waiting for the right time to do it. There’s never a “perfect” time, though, to give this kind of news to children who are between 6 and 12 years old. The following guidelines might help. Good times to talk When it comes… Read more »

School-age children: Should I share my fears?

It’s important to be honest with children between the ages of six and twelve, because they can be good at figuring out how a parent feels. But it’s also important to show your feelings in a way that gives them the least amount of worry. Try not to lean on your children as your main… Read more »