Be kind to yourself

Contributed by: Robin B.
Reviewed by: Evelyn Corsini, MSW, November 2008

I had fusion surgery at age 37 from T-2 – T-12 due to Scoliosis (curved spine) and chronic pain. I am still left with chronic pain to manage due to muscle atrophy, scoliosis, nerve damage scar tissue and multiple fusions.

Daily anti-seizure medication for pain and “pacing” my life schedule to allow for adequate down-time is necessary. One of the big challenges with pacing and allowing for “down-time” is that I cannot participate in life to the level I prefer. It is very hard to accept this limitation. Often times the self judgement and frustration for not “getting more accomplished” comes from a place of feeling inadequate due to my limitations.

I have to frequently remind myself that I am first and foremost a human being NOT a human doing. Don’t fall into the trap of devaluing yourself based on unrealistic expectations.

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