Tag: chronic pain

What are some things you should never say to a person with chronic pain? (Part I)

Contributed by: Three subscribers to the painACTION newsletter Reviewed by: Evelyn Corsini, MSW, March 2009   Here are three responses to a question in the painACTION Newsletter on March 23, 2009. Response #1 Never say, “I know how you feel.” Each person’s reaction to pain is affected by so many variables: family/friend support, pain tolerance,… Read more »

Young children: What to say about cancer

It’s not easy to talk with children less than six years old about the fact that you have cancer. You probably have questions about what words to use, and what reactions to expect. All families are different, and no one can write the perfect script for you and your child. But there are important things… Read more »

School age children: How much to say about cancer?

Having chosen to talk with your children honestly about your cancer, you may now be worried about how much information you can and should give children who are ages 6 to 12. Keep the following in mind when deciding how much to share. What your child needs to know Even if you do not have… Read more »

Young children: Should they be involved with my care?

Young children like to help their parents. When it comes to caring for you at home, though, how much should children under the age of 6 be expected to help? The answer depends on the ages of your children, and your relationship with them. Keep in mind that young children have short attention spans. Any… Read more »

Teenagers: When is it time to talk about cancer?

Even if you feel pressured to find the perfect time to talk about your cancer, there is no perfect time to break the news to your teenagers. Finding a good time Tell your children only when YOU feel ready to talk about your cancer. Don’t let too much time go by before talking with your… Read more »

Teenagers: Should I share my fears?

It’s important to be honest with teenagers about your fears and worries. That’s because teenagers are smart: Even if you don’t tell them what you’re worried about, at some point they’ll figure it out. The following guidelines can help as you share some of your fears: Talk about your fears in a way that causes… Read more »

Teenagers: How much to say about cancer?

Now that you’ve decided to talk with your teen honestly about your cancer, you may be worried about how much information to give them. Teens can tell you openly how much detail they want to know: Ask them before you start talking. Teenagers have plenty of access to the Internet and to other sources of… Read more »

School-age children: When is it time to talk about cancer?

Your children need to be told that you have cancer, but you’ve been waiting for the right time to do it. There’s never a “perfect” time, though, to give this kind of news to children who are between 6 and 12 years old. The following guidelines might help. Good times to talk When it comes… Read more »

How to talk with my teenager about pain

Teenagers will sense and understand when you’re in pain, so it’s important to be honest with them about your experience. Talking about pain Teenagers understand medical facts, so you can be honest with them about what’s happening. You might tell your teenager, “My blood counts are down and I feel very tired today.” Have an… Read more »

Be kind to yourself

Contributed by: Robin B. Reviewed by: Evelyn Corsini, MSW, November 2008 I had fusion surgery at age 37 from T-2 – T-12 due to Scoliosis (curved spine) and chronic pain. I am still left with chronic pain to manage due to muscle atrophy, scoliosis, nerve damage scar tissue and multiple fusions. Daily anti-seizure medication for… Read more »